I've been in a funk, this last week. I know why; I'm exhausted - mentally and physically. Last month, I took on a second job, for above all other things, to make money. In the past month, I've hurried from my full-time job, to my part-time job, already anticipating being able crash into my recliner, later in the evening. This has left me with not enough time to workout, focus on my blog or have any "me time". Why do we do this to ourselves? Why am I so concerned about my body looking a little 'fluffier' than usual? Why does society, as a whole, put this importance on being busy and doing work? After laughing about this, with my friend Carrie, we've decided it's because of this... we do it for great bods and lots of money!
Now PLEASE, insert your eye-roll and hysterical laughter; I sure did. It sounds ridiculous, right?! We constantly run ourselves ragged so we can make a lot of money, and look a certain way. But this path is one to go down very cautiously. Remember in my very first blog post, when I talked about making decisions based solely on money, and because it seemed like the "right thing to do"? I was MISERABLE! With the intention of never getting to that place again, I wanted to create a little helpful guide on how to focus on what's most important, when the less-important shit feels to run our lives.
After Googling "money quotes", I was disgusted by the amount of quotes that consisted of money being the primary factor of life/importance. No wonder we feel an obligation to work all of the time! Our country puts importance on 'working hard, making money'; but we've seemed to have taken that to the next level. Working ourselves, to the bone, just so we can feel like we can get by.
A couple of questions I'd like you to ask yourself, if you're struggling with overworking for money purposes:
"Is this money I'm making worth it?"
Maybe you guys have a part-time job, like me. Maybe it's a "side-hustle". Is that money you're gaining going toward something important, or special? Are you using it to pay off debt? Without that added source of income, how would your life differ? Bringing in more money is AWESOME, I totally agree. But this usually has a teeter-totter effect; we have money, but are miserable; or we don't have as much money, but more time to focus on ourselves.
"Have I taken advantage of all of my resources"
Have you received a raise, at your current job, in a while? Is there any way you could move up there, in order to gain more money, without having to find something else, on the side? What about easy, non-time consuming ways to increase your money?
- Acorns.com is amazing! It allows you to link your credit cards, and checking accounts, and every time you spend money on them, Acorns will round those purchases up, to the nearest dollar. Your spare change is automatically invested! I've just been letting mine sit there and grow, however you do have the option to take money out, whenever you wish. A very easy way to make some money! Get $5 toward opening your account!
- Poshmark is quickly growing, and for good reason! You can buy and sell name-brand clothing. They provide the pre-paid label, and you are responsible for shipping it off! Whenever I want to clean out my closet, I try to post my clothes on Poshmark first!
- JoinHoney.com is another amazing program that assists you in checking coupon codes ALLLLL over the internet! Once downloaded, it'll permanently be in your browser, and every time you go to make an online purchase (Amazon all the way to Lululemon), it'll let you know if there are any coupon codes to use, and once you make purchases, you will qualify for "Honey Gold", which as increased can get you gift cards to places like Amazon! Get $5 with your first qualifying purchase!
"Am I overly stressed about money?"
This is probably a "yes" for the majority of us, right? Personally, I know that I always seem to struggle with money; I never seem to have enough! Lately, I've been trying to make a list of what I NEED vs. what I WANT. I know this seems like simple stuff, but the true fact is that a lot of us don't actually do it. Just like creating your life priorities, it's important to create your materialistic priorities, as well. For me? Skincare/bodycare and food are high on this priority list. Clothes? Not so much. Booze? Nope. Dining out on occasion? Yes. But overall, my money goes toward buying groceries. I know I still spend too much at the grocery store, and that's something I need to continue working on. But I'm happy knowing my money is going toward fueling my body with good food, compared to using it on something that isn't the best for it. See? Priorities. Do yourself a favor and make your list.
Speaking of lists, that brings me to my next topic: the ever-long feeling of never getting everything accomplished! You all know what I'm talking about, right?! That list, either on paper, or in our mind, that we constantly come back to; constantly stress about; and never really get done. That's been my biggest issue, this entire month: my laundry list of things to get done. It seems like when I'm sitting at a store, doing a demo, my mind races with all of the items I still need to get accomplished.
I had a really great conversation with one of my members, the other day. She called because she said she was starting to feel overwhelmed with "trying to work on every one of the goals [she had set}, that week".
"I know these goals are important, but I find myself getting so stressed, and overwhelmed when I can't put enough focus on all of them!" Does this sound familiar?
Yes, it sounds familiar to me, too. I think as people, in a society so driven by money, status and appearance, it's EASY for us to find ourselves overwhelmed with that list of things to do. So as I suggested to her, I'm going to suggest the same here: creating a weekly goal (maybe even a daily goal). Goals are great, right?! Honestly, even as a coach, I often find myself cursing the idea of always setting goals. Why do we need to set a goal in order to move forward? Why do we need a goal in order to see success? Can't we just do what we do, and that will be enough? Well, that's the thing about NOT creating goals: usually, you'll find your mind filled with a cluster-fuck of information, similarly to how mine has felt this entire last month; we know what we NEED to do, but unsure of where to start, or what to do.
Goals are great because they provide us with a road map. So often, we find ourselves feeling overwhelmed because, instead of focusing on one or two things, daily, we feel the need to focus on 20. When we have less to focus on, things become easier - in our mind and body.
How does this help with time? It creates that space! That cluster-fuck of information, swirling around in your brain, like I mentioned, begins to disperse; organize itself into categories. Make sure to create a goal you feel really good about; something that is going to be good for your soul, and your brain.
Utilizing Your Time the Best You Can
After taking the time to think about your finances, and the never-ending list of things to get done, I want you to create your weekly goal. What do you need to do, in order to find balance, in mind and body? I'll give you an example (and this is super helpful for me to write out, myself).
Next week, I will work at my part-time job two days a week, and exercise for at least three.
On Tuesday, I will wash the sheets.
On Wednesday and Friday, I will work on my next blog post.
Every night, this week, I will take a bath before going to bed by 10.
Simple, right? Now I realize that we're human, and things come up. But don't use that as an excuse to not set your goals. If nothing else, it will be that road map needed to calm yourself down - not feel as overwhelmed.
This week, I want you to create a list of your priorities (materialistic and personal), as well as a weekly goal. One, two or three main things to focus on, daily or weekly, to help you move forward, and feel less overwhelmed.
Priorities are always what it comes down to. Whether you're working yourself ragged, staying at home two nights a week, going to happy hour... it's all based on what you find important. Make sure you know WHY you're doing the things that you are; that'll always help clear your mind and feel a little less overwhelmed.