Social media doesn’t portray real life. I can’t repeat this enough. And I’d be lying if I said scrolling , lately, hasn’t made me question every aspect of my life. Instead of seeing social media as a place to connect with friends from near and far, it’s turned into a dark place of comparison, bragging, marketing and most importantly… false portrayment.
In the age of posting our lives, virtually, for the world to see, I fear we’ve all begun to lose sight of what’s real and what’s not; and worse than that, we’ve begun to lose sight of what makes us us.
It’s easy to post about something, isn’t it? Hiding behind a screen, we have the ability to intricately edit something, until we feel good about sending it off for everyone to see. But life isn’t that way. Rarely (if ever) do we get the opportunity to “edit” pieces, or experiences, of our lives. This means, that when we’re constantly visiting any social platform, “realness” is hard to gauge.
We’ve become a society overwhelmed by anxiety, and it’s no surprise. Instead of seeing self-care practices as normal routine, they’re glorified as ways to specially-treat ourselves. We’re taking anti-depressants, and CBD and working to rid our bodies of the always-present inflammation.
Not all, but a lot of this anxiety (I believe) is caused by a constant-drive to keep up: with everyone else who seems to have their *shit together. But remember this:
Nobody has the perfect life, and if it’s portrayed that way, that’s on them, not you.
Working from home? Hanging out with your pets. Wearing slippers all day. Not driving to work. That’s what you see. What you don’t see? Not communicating with anyone. Loneliness. Boredom.
Being your own boss? No set schedule. Working from anywhere. Being the one in control. That’s what you see. What you don’t see? No benefits. No company-provided insurance. No stability, or reocurring, bi-weekly income.
Traveling all over the world? Experiencing different cultures. Making memories. Enjoying yourself. That’s what you see. What you don’t see? Lots of money spent. Potentially going into debt. The trip being paid for by someone else.
Always-healthy lifestyle? Getting fit. Feeling good. Showcasing your perfect body, or self. That’s what you see. What you don’t see? Orthorexia. Insecurity. Feeling like poop when they don’t follow this lifestyle.
“Blessed” with everything? Celebrating what’s going well. Showing appreciation for their family. Thanking God for what He’s provided them with. That’s what you see. What you don’t see? Insecurity. Feeling unsure. Not-so-perfect life situations, that cause a desire to cover things up.
Flawless photos? Perfect skin. A ton of “likes”. Compliments. That’s what you see. What you don’t see? Unedited photos. Insecurity.
This list could go on forever, but you see the point. Nobody’s life is ever perfect. And honestly, speaking from experience, I’m come to find that the more time spent on social media - editing photos of yourself, posts about yourself, scrolling through others’ profiles - the more negativity is going to fill your heart.
I don’t do resolutions, but an intention for this year is to significantly cut back on my social media time:
Enjoying an experience without posting about it
Spending night-time reading, or watching a movie, instead of scrolling
Listing daily reminders on how I want to feel
Taking more pictures, and leaving them unedited
How do your intentions around social media compare? Do you have any? Do you need any? Sometimes, taking care of ourselves means tuning out all the extra, and focus on the necessity… you.