Is the Grass Really Greener? A Post on Being Unsure.

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Being unsure. It’s a very common feeling, right? Unsure of what pants to put on, in the morning. Unsure of what to buy for dinner. Unsure of what to do this weekend.

Being unsure is so common, but what about larger aspects of the feeling? Unsure about career. Unsure about relationships. Unsure about the present… and/or the future.

So often, we find ourselves overstimulated with opportunities, we question whether or not the grass is actually greener, on the other side; we become unsure.

Remember when you were in high school, and you were SO excited to graduate?

Or when you were in college, SO ready to get out into the real world?

What about being in the real world, ready for your next career move?

New house? New car? Vacation? Partner? Heck, even something as simple as anticipating the weekend, we’ve gotten into a habit of always anticipating the next best thing.

I’ve created a short list to remember, when you find yourself fantasizing about what you don’t have.

When you’re unsure, remember:

  • Each person’s successes always look better on paper (or on social media).

  • Your passions. What makes you happy, builds you up, brings you joy? Just because that passion might not provide you with as much money, your joy equates for more than gold. *Seriously. We all can’t be engineers!

  • We all have moments of panic, devastation and extreme-depression. The sad truth is that these moments aren’t talked about as much as the bouts of joy, so we don’t think they’re normal.

  • Even if you did forge forward (to “greener grass”), how would you feel once there? Would it really be all that better?

  • Thoughts vs reality. Sometimes, we can get too tied up in our thoughts that we forget about the GOOD things we DO have.

  • Life is all about experiences. More often than not, those experiences will be uncomfortable; that’s to help you grow. Trust me.

I’ve come to the conclusion that if having things turn out the way you wanted them to is a measure of a successful life, then some would say I’m a failure. The important thing is not to be bitter over life’s disappointments. Learn to let go of the past. And recognize that every day won’t be sunny, and when you find yourself lost in the darkness and despair, remember it’s only in the black of night you see the stars. And those stars will lead you back home. So don’t be afraid to make mistakes, to stumble and fall, cause most of the time, the greatest rewards come from doing the things that scare you the most. Maybe you’ll get everything you wish for. Maybe you’ll get more than you ever could have imagined. Who knows where life will take you. The road is long and in the end, the journey is the destination.

— Coach Whitey Durham (One Tree Hill)

It’s easy to get caught up in what’s not happening and forget about what is. I’ve been guilty of that, lately. Sometimes, it’s important to focus on how you can water your own grass, before thinking about moving onto what might be greener.

xoxo,

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